“The research arm of dating site OKCupid looked at 500,000 first contacts and concluded that “netspeak, bad grammar and bad spelling are huge turn-offs”. The biggest passion killers were “ur”, “r”, “u”, “ya” and “cant”. Also damaging to online suitors were “luv” and “wat”. On the other hand, correct use of apostrophes was appealing. Using “don’t” and “won’t” caused better than average response rates - 36% and 37% respectively, according to the research”
It’s true! For people I do not know, if you can’t be bothered to spell out a word or use correct punctuation, I can’t be bothered to respond to your message. For people I know, I am a little more forgiving, and I do understand that text messages will be more compact than grammatically correct. However, messages on dating sites are not supposed to be something you hurriedly sent off between getting out of the car and walking into your work. Reasonably correct grammar shows that you were actually paying attention when you wrote the message, and makes me more likely to pay attention to you.